Things are going very well for me and my H. He stayed with me last night and we enjoyed the evening together. NY said that we should explore what underlying reasons that may have caused the A and I spoke to my C regarding just this. My C said it was a personal problem that my H had, his opinion was that my H took on a "parental" role, he needed to be needed and the OW needed him. It was a volitale attraction but my H swears he has learned his lesson and that I should never have to worry about this again. I really believe his sincerity about this. Am I being naive? He is carrying a very heavy burden. He has a hard time believing that he did what he did and it saddens him a great deal. I am also giving him his space to work out his personal problems but we both are getting better. I honestly believe that we are healing and that we are going to be able to pull this M back together. A total 180 from what I was thinking about a month ago. It's amazing - once you quit throwing it up in their face, and quit reliving it, things do get better.
