BF,

Some things bother me so much I dont want to offer more R help.

About my sitch? Please never feel that way. I love your advice insight and thoughts. As does many other people on the BB.

Though my sitch is different then alot of peoples in this forum. Truth be told I think I have it easier then most.

My biggest issues are trying to relearn behaviors. To open up and allow myself to just feel things. Others here I see all these things that cause them pain and it makes me sad for them. My heart cries for Gel who seemed to be moving well along the path and now seems to be back were she started. And HD and Lou my gosh I could take frying pans to there spouses heads.And Cine I am just all out worried about she was in a bad place then just disappeared. Lil does seem to be in a calmer place then she was 6 months ago. But there is still such a sadness and longing within her. Compared to most of these people I feel like a whiney baby.

so I hope the physical abuse is gone and stays gone.

There was never massive amounts of physical abuse alot of threats towards it and verbal abuse. It has tappered off some. If it last ahhh we will see.

When you say this it comes off as there is nothing about him that pleases you.

Sorry no not my intent. It is the soppy word type thing that turns my stomach. Not good at being soppy.
Nor do I receive soppiness well. Gotta work on that.

and what pray tell is he using those tools for?

Well I know it was not to fix the kids bikes! But in truth they have been lying there so long who can remember. May have been the last time he changed the oil in his truck.
He is terrible for leaving things around and then when he canot find them he blames the kids they most have had them blah blah....

and fishing sounds like GAL to me.

Yup and I have no problems with him fishing. But there are still things he needs to do other then fish and watch TV.

You said that men do not need a mother to tell them what to do. Yesterday after the fishing I made mention of the tree and I wanted it gone. Guess what today it is gone.
Now going on peoples advice and not telling him what to do but allowing him to be the manly man and feel needed to do did not work as suggested. I had to point blank say and how much longer is that tree going to lay there in the yard before you cut it up.

Ok skinny minny

5'7 122lbs not that skinny.

Well even though I said it before I guess I will spell it out. I dont do drugs, legal or not

I don't think I implied you did I think I used the reason why I do not do these things as a reason for a simular example to my not liking to be out of control with my emotional state and why I would walk away from a fairly good relationship when I felt I was not in control of my feelings.

Mental note jokes about sex ok

HMMMM more then okay.

BF I appreciate all the time you put on my post. I know sometimes it is hard to know what to say to someone if your sitch is not simular or if you have never walked a mile in there shoes.

I know it is hard for alot of people to know what to say regaurding my post. As I said before my sitch for the most part does not belong on this board.

P.S my new job is so disorganized I had to show my boss today how to do the paperwork? Not thinking this is going to be good for my control issues!