He seems to have a problem with me marking it down and keeping track of it now. He knows I do it because he use to always say we had not had sex in weeks when in fact we had it just days prior. Now I can say while thats not true look here. And also by marking it down I can make sure I do not slide into total LDness.
I could see how he would have no idea what you were thinking, and while I LOL too, your laughter could very well have hurt his feelings.
My H understand LD and HD he reads this website from time to time and I never hid who I am my BB name is my real name. And he also knows I find it funny when he turns me down for sex. So I doubt his feelings were hurt.
I recognize why you have a need for so much control
Enlighten me please on this.
You have fears that are driving your actions also.
There is truth to this now if you could help me identify what fears these are I would cyberly kiss your feet.
You have a lot of skill and practice with controlling men
No I have alot of skill and practice with not allowing men to control me. Which makes it a game to a man and the hunt is on. Somewhere in the game the tables seem to turn and I am the one holding the controll over them in the end. It really is a silly game.
Thats not the case here, at all is it
No sadly it is not.
Even when it is or he puts effort into trying towards that you flip it in your head to a different perspective to maintian that perception of control, or test him.
Now I do not purposely test him that is his game not mine. Dealing with me may soemtimes put him to the test though!
The rest I am going to have to maul over. The deeper meaning to that comment and get back to you.
Do you think this may not come across to him?
Well since I have told him that I want him to be more satisfied that I do this for him yeah I would say he is aware of it.
Guys here have mentioned not wanting to ML to someone who is giving pity sex, or showing no desire in return.
It is not pity sex I do not pity him enough to have sex with him. But agreed that even though I suggest sex frequently I am a arousal then desire person so that makes the situation a little more tricky.
People should get points for effort in trying to change even when the efforts and motives are obvious to us. Especially when we are the R <sarcasm> 'expert'
So are you saying my H is trying to change and I should give him points for this. What are you seeing that I do not? And I know I am not being referred to as a R expert. Look how few people remain posting on my threads . I cannot even maintain a cyber relationship!
There is a reason you were able to get in my head, dont think it doesnt go both ways....
Oddly since the day you started posting here I know you could. And that is a rare feat both ways.
Going to bed I have to work tomorrow Hope all has a good night!
