Though the last few nights it has been really cold and he has snuggled up to keep me warm and that has been nice that there is no underlying reason for this I will admit.

Just enjoy it. Im glad you admitted it, did you admit it to your H?

Your post is vague, how has he been making it hard? and what problem has he had with the schedule?


the first night and I had to giggle the second night I said ahh I get to play the HD now instead of the LD and busted out laughing

Yeah, you would be HD especially right before your visitor.

I could see how he would have no idea what you were thinking, and while I LOL too, your laughter could very well have hurt his feelings.

I recognize why you have a need for so much control, but I see how you could be cutting off your nose to spite your face too. You have fears that are driving your actions also. You have a lot of skill and practice with controlling men. Its a skill that can actually hurt you if you think less of men for being the creatures that they are, when they succumb to your wiles. Because the natural order of things is for the man to be in charge of the R. Thats not the case here, at all is it? Even when it is or he puts effort into trying towards that you flip it in your head to a different perspective to maintian that perception of control, or test him. I doubt there are many guys that could past your tests long term Chrissy. Yet you seem to have found one that puts up with them to a certain extent. If you dont reward him for his efforts he will give up, and your fears will self fullfill.

I am befuzzeled by that since I do this for him and the lack of meeting this goal means nothing much to me.


Do you think this may not come across to him? I mentioned it the other day, about it being appetizing. Guys here have mentioned not wanting to ML to someone who is giving pity sex, or showing no desire in return.


People should get points for effort in trying to change even when the efforts and motives are obvious to us. Especially when we are the R <sarcasm> 'expert'

There is a reason you were able to get in my head, dont think it doesnt go both ways....