Chrissy, Is there a time when he can initiate and you are receptive and welcoming about it?
If not, then it's no secret why he chose to be an insensitive jerk. If you are are sure 'no', then why try to do it at an appropriate time..what's it gonna matter right? If there is, then I would encourage him to stick to that time and give him praise when he does. (praise what you like, then you will get more of it)
I totally get what you are saying about sleep being off limits, tho. It doesn't bother me to be woken up for nookie but it would enrage my H. Everyone's different.
Try not to read more into it other than he was horny and was hoping for the best. It is really hard lying next to someone whom you want to have sex with, night after night, knowing they're off limits. I doubt he was doing anything more than making an impulsive move that turned out bad.
I am guilty sometimes of assigning all this 'meaning' to my H's moves when, really, he's just a guy doing guy things. Do I need to say anymore than that.
