Being a cool mom is easy for me. All my kids friends think I am cool but they all are also deathly afraid of me lol!
What a odd combo.
I have five general rules of raising my kids.
1. Support there individuality. And allow them to express it.
2. Make them aware there are consequences for there actions.
3. Listen to them be there friend but always be there mother first.
4. Do not be a hypocrite and expect them to make mistakes. Big ones and small ones.
5. Love them and let them know you do without allowing them to run all over you.
Holden,Heath and Austin are all close in age 4 years spread between them. And they are as different as night and day in some ways. I try to spend individual time with them all to get to know them. Sometimes that means I am watching cartoons or horror movies Some times that means I am listening to Country music or Rap. Going to baseball games or football games or soon to be watching Heath play in the chess club (oh that will be fun). I dance with them watch them dance. I take turns cooking there favorite foods durring the week. What ever it takes to make them feel special. Yet will slap them down in a heart beat if they step out of line. None of them like mom to be upset with them. It matters to them. I find it amazing at times.
And there friends are the same. I have at times had one to two that stayed her more then at home. And I dealt with them the same. Friends that cross the line with me. Are exiled and they are forwarned so they also tow the line yet think I am cool. I never had a parent that interacted with me.But had friends who's parents that did and thought it was awesome. So I try to use them as role models
Chauncie and I banter we do the little fights no that is my shirt no it is mine. Oh I look much hotter in that then you do and so forth. It is great fun.
Right before Chauncie moved out she gave me the most awesome present. She told me she apprieciated the fact that one everyone elses parents let there kids do just about anything or have just about anything and I always wanted to know where she was and what she was doing. And that when I corrected her or would not allow her to do things even though at the time she thought I was being mean. She knows that I was looking out for her and she thanked me for that and teaching her to be responsible.
It was the most awesome thing to have one of your children say hey mom thanks for being a bitch at times I know you did it because you loved me.
Oh I think I have figured out what to get her for her birthday. I am going to pay her cell bill for the month. Then just get her a little something like tanning sessions and take her to lunch.
(Going to admit the only reason is I realized if I put a order in for lingerie with one of the companys I sell products from I may not get it in time).
Spa products are great. But her Christmas stocking is always filled with Bath and Body works products to last the year. It is hell as they get older figuring out what to get them.
