Chrissy... Your list is really a great place to start. I hope H likes the card. By focusing on the positive, you may make the quality of your life with H a bit more pleasant, especially since it sounds like you aren't making any major decisions as of yet.
My "overlook the negatives" comment was a poor choice of words. The negatives have to be dealt with...I'm still learning how to address my H's sucky behavior. The neglect and abuse I felt when I first posted has gotten better, I am happy to report. We are almost getting healthy...imagine that! And having some fun too.
