Hi Chrissy... I thought the " drop the drawers" episode was hysterical too( well, not for you, but it is for those of us at home...kind of like Hdog's breast scene).
You are very focused on your H's needy behavior ( which, btw, I do agree is blechy). I think it would be helpful for you to think of a few things that H can do that would seem attractive in your eyes. He needs your admiration as well.
I know you are in a detached state, but I agree with BF that you are not as psycho as you like to paint yourself. You recognize the detachment...heck, the yrs I was withdrawn from H I was clueless that I was detached.
I think you can turn things around a bit when you are ready.