BCB- welcome aboard... sorry you have reason to be here. Your story is like so many of ours-- with variations-- and is heartbreaking, like many of ours.
Do you think your H is interested in a deeper closer marriage (with more sex)? A book many of us have read is Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch. It does present some practical suggestions, but both people have to be willing to make changes.
I won't sugar-coat the sitch: you've got a tough row to hoe, and it may not be row-able. I used to have a psychology teacher in gradutate school and he said you need three things for a successful marriage: caring, commitment, and chemistry.
