A year and a half of this, huh? Maybe it's time to see it for what it is and move on.
Bottom line: H's behaviors are aimed at keeping you away, pure and simple.
he would say "Oh, and that means I have to accept it on your terms right? How convenient for you. You betray the vows in this M, obliterate trust and you get to decide how things go from there".
He refers back to needing to get back to 'ground zero' where we were before the A. Then we can consider how to go forward.
He talks about resetting back to a former basis, but refuses to do so. If he can't get himself past the betrayal, there's no chance at all this is ever going to work out. If you push, he pushes back harder. It's truly abusive.
1. Is moving back into the bedroom putting my feelings ahead of his?
No, it's placing your feelings equal to his. He feels he can be there, and so do you.
2. Should I risk setting back the progress in my R with him? He has told me if I moved back in, he would never step foot in that room again. That's not what I want either.
You're not the one more actively blocking the progress.
His threat of what he would do indicates that he's not ever going to progress but instead sabotage every step of the way. That man has deep problems Heather.
3. How do I handle things if he gets physical or otherwise abusive in an attempt to get me out of the room?
