Did your WAW ever specifically tell you what she needed from you and, if so, how did you respond to her?
Not that I can recall. At least not before the bomb. After the bomb, I received a list of "things we never did" as the reasons why she was unhappy and why our R/M was over and we needed to move on.
After the "pre-bomb" in the summer of 2002 when WAW said she was not happy but wouldn't leave, I read 5LL and His Needs, Her Needs and unfortunately went over board guessing LL and acting on them. I guess that's part of my frustration, from my recollection and my perception, WAW did not reveal what she needed from me and give me the opportunity to meet those needs.
I'm actually more sad for her that she's in such a state than what it may portend for me.
I feel the same way about my WAW. She told me that she knows about love and knows what she is doing. She may be right, but I disagree with her. I feel sad that she has terminated so many of her friendships as a part of her "new life".
We all reap what we sow
I hope that the love and attention that I am sowing in DD's lives germinates into healthy relationships for them in the future.
Thanks for your reply. Believe it or not I am learning from you and others on the BB for a future relationship either w/WAW or someone else.
