Heather, yuppers controlled binging...that was HIM...it was amazing towards the end of our R, I could tell if he was going to drink that night by how he acted during the day...there was a pattern.
I wondered a great deal about myself too Heather...there are no answers...and as my first C told me, you can't make sense of insanity and there was insanity regarding him and the drinking...even so more...I do hope that his new R gives him the peace of mind that he seems to be seeking or claims he is...he lost himself...couldn't handle the stresses of life and the depression that sunk in and in hindsight I couldn't help him because I couldnt' understand how he was feeling and dealing with it. Of course that has all changed and I can't change the best...I can only wish him peace of mind.