Exactly Anna. Can we still be loving without pursuing? I suppose we could if our love was demonstrated more as a reaction/reward for those behaviors we find desirable in our partners as opposed to repeatedly instigating random closeness....hmm. What do you think?
I gave some advice on another thread that I think I need to take as well. I need to make a list of what I feel good about in my R and another list of what I don't feel so good about. Then I will go through the same list and think of behaviors that I can try to influence more of the good on my list and less of the bad on my list. I will work on this and post it later. I'm just telling you so that you don't let me off the hook!! Now that I've said it 'out loud', I have to do it, lol.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
