Learning to trust myself III

[Burgbud]

(heather) BTW, thanks for throwing the 'beautiful' part in there

I'm psychic like that. It's a gift. And I'm never wrong.

Don't fear, Koshka, a new thread is about to open, much to the chagrin of everyone who enjoys a quick read.

There's a lot I wanted to get out after meeting Heather but maybe one concept can get the point across. You know how you read somebody's thread and you think to yourself, "this person deserves someone better"? Well, that certainly applies, but I'd go a step further and say, "Someone out there deserves Heather." Because she's certainly not some pushover who stays in a bad relationship because she's not strong enough to get out. She's there because she's strong enough to stay. I worry that H's negativity could eventually wear her out. But right now she's a thinker and a do'er and an optimist who does not at all give the impression she's being beaten down by life. She's trying to make her M better for her and for her kids, not to please H.

Heather, you're making H's life better whether he recognizes that fact or not, and whether he deserves it or not. It's truly a shame that he can't drag himself out of whatever hole he's drug himself into and make life better for all of you, but that's totally him. If he doesn't stop feeling sorry for himself he's going to continue to live the life he's earned. I hope he pulls through before you're finally too tired of his crap to go on with him, but if that time comes, rest assured you'll find a guy out there who *does* deserve you. It may take awhile because there are a lot of dumbasses to sort through, but you'll find him.

And maybe he'll be wearing a Navy uniform? Hmmmm....