Quote: I opened up more, called him more, became less detached and then the ugly side of him creeped up more often.
Depending on what your H job is calling him just may not be appropriate. I am in meetings from 9am until 4pm all day, every day. If my W calls, she is interrupting a meeting. Accepting her call is inappropriate for me. It really stresses me out when she calls because I don't want to blow her off, but I'm in a meeting and it's weird.
Now, what I find totally cool is a text message. If you are calling to just say Hi and ask how things are going, a text message is much less intrusive. I can even text message back from the middle of the meeting.
If your H does have a rough schedule, you might suggest that he call when he finds an idle minute, just to say Hi. Then, be sure not to make it a long call, because if it is too long he won't call again because he'll be afraid of being on the phone too long and not being able to get back to work. So, just be really excited, thank him for calling to say Hi, and show respect for his job by saying I'm sure you have to get back to work so I'll let you go. Bye. ILY.
Hope that helps. Very possible none of it applies. <shrug>
