Yep, stop sign it is. It may take me awhile to implement ideas that have been in my head, but I'm getting it!! The delayed reaction is hard, but I feel much more dignified feeling than I do when I give in to the heat of the moment. This goes right along with letting H keep the bad guy status too. There is absolutely no point in taking his bait so that I become the bad guy. That is just stupid, yet somehow I haven't seen this fact until the last few months. Oh well, better late than never
What if you stayed detached and waited to see if H opened up to you and started calling you? Or maybe when you open up to him and call him he feels like you are encroaching in on his bubble? Maybe at this point H still needs "some space"?
Actually, H calls me a lot during the day. Before, I was not saying much though and I was always the first to hang up and made it evident that we had lots to do. So, oddly, he seemed to react more positively when I let him initiate contact and didn't say much. Hmm. That doesn't sound very nice when I say it out loud, lol. But since H has been back, I have been more open about things that are going on in my life at work, etc. I guess I just need to find a new best friend for a while? I don't know...
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
