Learning to trust myself III

[heatherg]

Overall, things are still going in a positve direction for H and I. We have been really busy, both of us a little overwhelmed and on edge at times. But able to talk about it and move past it.
Then last night, he started with a couple comments that really ticked me off. I mentioned that ER was on at 10pm and he asked what that had to do with us. I said, I've been watching it. He says, "I've always thought it was good that we weren't glued to any 'shows'....now you watch desperate housewives on Sundays, Tuesday you were looking for House and now tonight you're talking about ER. The other day D2 and S5 were playing 'mommy and daddy' and S5 tells D2 'ok you be mommy and I'll be daddy' and D2 says 'ok, I'm going to karate'." Personally, think it's cute that she said that and would not react negatively to that at all.....H sees it as a totally negative thing and made me feel that I should be ashamed that that would be the first thing to come to her little mind when she was playing Mommy. So, we continued the conversation a little and among some other sentences, I recall saying something like 'What is your point here, what are you trying to say??' And I recall him mentioning that on Sunday when Desperate Housewives was on that I didn't stay in S5's room to finish the bedtime story b/c after the commercial was over I went back to the living room. I asked about his Sunday football and why it's ok for him to be 100% dedicated to football for 3 hours but I can't watch a tv show. He said 'Lately, I'm watching the kids while I'm trying to watch football (b/c I have karate on Sundays at 2pm). I didn't respond to that. I said 'ok, would you like to give me a list of what I am and am not allowed to do'. He said 'Just use a little consideration for the family when you're making your own list'.
WTF??? We are talking about TV here. I have not been able to go to karate on a regular basis in *months*. Now he's complaining about TV shows that I watch. I told him this was an example of a negative interaction that had no point to it.
I don't know why he tries to make me feel so guilty for anything I do that doesn't have to do with the kids. I'm torn b/c I see his point. We work all day and only have a few hours with our kids at night. But we *do* make the most of those hours, last night we went for a bike ride when I got home from work, we do all kinds of stuff with them. The vast majority of our free time is centered around them. I get irritated and very defensive when H starts talking like I am not allowed to have a life that treats *me* as though I am important as well without him constantly telling me how 'selfish' or 'inconsiderate' I am. There is absolutely no GAL in my case!!
Thoughts??