Learning to trust myself III

[Burgbud]

Any suggestions?

I think you're right to not withhold sex as long as it's something you want to do and something you want to do with H. You're right; that would be game playing on your part. Better to keep that separate from the game playing on his part.

You may not be good at maintaining games but he is. He's got two big ones going right now and he's kept them up for a long time. Has he given you anything even remotely concrete to let you know what has to happen before he'll "let" you sleep in your bed again? If you went to bed before him some night and he came in to find you sleeping in your bed, would he go sleep somewhere else?

I guess it seems to me that after so much time has gone by, he more than owes it to you to at least let you know what he's thinking about the kissing and especially about sleeping in the bed. If it's just that he thinks you're not sorry enough, what does he want to see from you to prove how sorry you are? You shouldn't have to guess and get suggestions. By this point you deserve to know.

And if he won't tell you, I worry you're accepting a lot more than you should.