Happy Anniversary! Today is our anniversary as well....9yrs! Minnesota Steve always gives good advice but you gave some to yourself in you last post:
Quote: It seems like the times he is happiest with me (and shows it) are when I am doing great in my own life and not living so much for the relationship....I guess I've let things slide for awhile, as though once I saw things getting good, I felt I didn't need to do the work anymore. And I think that's probably why I've been unhappy and worried lately, just like I used to be during the separation.
It's very easy to fall back into old patterns and habits...you have to continue doing what works! Re-read DR and make some new goals for yourself and your M.
