I never thought I would post this kind of message.
I have been divorced now for about a year after a hellish 3-year separation including being betrayed by my former wife and a former friend.
I never, repeat, never, during that time felt I could ever be happy again. But I AM.
In the process... I went through depression, rage, suicide attempt, substance abuse, hospitalization and program after program to help me get through all of this.
It finally got better once the healing took place over time.
I still recommend trying to make it work if at all possible. Your marriage that is. But if someone leaves you and will not try at all... when it is done, it is done. Accepting it may take a long time. I never thought I could but I have... and it is wonderful.
Have met someone fabulous and am building toward marriage again in perhaps another year. All of the work I did to look at myself during the divorce is coming back to me in a positive way. Big time.
There is so much to all of this... all I wish to convey is that there is hope for our lives even when we don't think there is.
I hurt so badly then... yet I am so happy now. In a way I never have known before.
It is there for other too. There is hope. It does get better. I finally believe it. I hope you will too.
