Well, I might be personally exhausted with my sitch but if I can't show empathy in a situation like this then I would be a callous bitch.
And no, I never expected that Andy would lean on me particularly; he's not given to admitting his emotions. Even in the M he insisted that he was always fine, no matter what, that he was the strong one, the big man.
I only ever saw him cry I think 4 times in the 14 years I knew him before we split up. The first time was when his grandmother died, second time when his great-grandmother died, third time when I was in agony with VS and he couldn't stand to see me suffering so he broke down, and the fourth time was when I had my first miscarriage.
That's all. He just hides his feelings all the time and puts this wall up even amongst people he loves. Sometimes his mother can get a little nearer, but rarely.
I am not sure if he would want my support since we are divorced now, but I'll stand in the background and be an anchor anyway, in case he starts to sink.
