Out of curiosity why are you asleep when he comes to bed. Is it due to a work shift of his (like my H's occasionally) or that you go to bed earlier than he does?
Also, if he gets up earlier than you .... is it would it be unreasonable for you to surprise him one morning, set your alarm clock for an hour before he normally gets up (yes this will mean you lose some sleep) and wake him up by initiating? Doing something like that makes the HD person feel special/loved/desired/wanted etc.
I know it would be inconvenient for you to have to do that, but a simple act of going out of your way like that could mean an awful lot to your H.
Also, out of curiosity...why can't your H do the follow-through 2-3 times? Does he have ED?
