Quote: I ws under the impression your wife never intiated, but here you say she initiates 50% of the time.
No, that is not the case. She told me two days ago that as much as she knows she should not - she keeps a tally. If she was the last one to initiate, then she feels it is MY TURN. It doesn't matter if she gets horny or not. She will go to sleep horny rather than initiate two times in a row. This goes also for throwing any "signs" my way... if she were to come out of the bathroom in her silk pajamas (a sign) then that is the same as her initiating.
As such, since we average once every 20-30 days... she initiates once every 40-60 days.
Maybe the solution is for me to initiate two days after we ML. Then, even when she says "no" - it's technically HER TURN now... so, I can mentally sit back and let her fret about it...
