can some LD people please comment on this so I can understand...
I am a logical person. I make a lot of decisions based on what is logical.
FACTS - I want sex more than my wife - my wife turns me down 70% of the time I initiate - my wife initiates 50% of the time - I have NEVER turned down my wife
It would make sense to me that my wife should do the initiating. Then I can relax and not worry about "is she in the mood or not" - she knows that anytime/anywhere she is in the mood she can have it. I think that is part of our problem - I'm too easy...
Instead, she insists that I initiate 50% of the time and face the rejection.
Here's a funny story... At one time in our marriage I thought it would be helpful to make a peg board for our bedroom... my parents had this clock looking thing that I never understood until late in life... it had two hands (one pink, one blue) that could be pointed at different parts of the clock face "tonight" - "I'm in the mood" "I'm sleepy" and so on...
I thought it was a great idea and it would help us communicate non-verbally. So, I made this cryptic peg board that the kids would not understand, but we would...
It had phrases like - "hot stuff" - "I'm yours" - "need a little push" - "sleepy" - "just wanna watch TV" - "hands off" - "danger"
and so on...
Well, it didn't work...
My peg was always in the top hole (ready anytime) and her peg would bounce up and down the board. Basically, anytime she moved her peg high enough up the board we would ML.
As such, she was 100% percent responsible for when we ML. She got pretty sick of that in a few months and the board was taken down.
