Wow! I can't believe this topic finally showed up here! One of the biggest areas of conflict I have with my bf is that he sits up much later than me watching tv and sometimes falls asleep on the couch. He says he's not avoiding me, but as you said, chances for intimacy are missed when we sleep apart. This has been a problem since the beginning (3 years ago) but back then he was sitting up drinking. He's been sober for 18 months, but still sits up late. He said he has to unwind. Well, I go to bed around 11. If he would come to bed by 1 am, I'd be relatively okay with that. But lately it's been till 2 or 3. Last Saturday, I finally came into the living room at 2 and asked if he was getting sleepy yet. He said "pretty soon." I went back to bed but I was so mad I got up and put my clothes on. I said to him, I want to sleep with you. I don't want to sleep alone. If I'm going to sleep alone, I might as well be at home." And I left to go home to my house. It really shocked him. But I told him that's what I'm going to do from now on on Saturday nights. I'm staying at my house. That way he can stay up all night if he wants to. Thank God I still have my own house. NEVER giving that up!!
