I so appreciate all the input. I could use some more info on men. How do you keep asking for what you need without being perceived as a nag and driving H over the edge? When men say TLYBNILWY, is it typically about sex, needing more excitement? How do you get men to talk about their feelings? My H says he has urges? This must be sexual, why not talk about it with your wife and try to get your needs met? Is it just too boring after 12 years? I do not get it. I am in great shape, attractive, is it just boredom, missing the chase? I also feel I am not in love, but I am willing to do what is needed to get back there as it takes constant work and with our schedules, we do let it go.
Lou, books on the couch, they would end up on the floor! One night I was so fed up I took the cushions from the couch so he could not sleep there. That just made the recliner appealing, and me unappealing!
I really feel if he would get off the couch our problems would be solved. It is so hard to fix something you have no control over. I use to enitice him to get off the couch, now I don't bother as I know he will just retreat back to the couch and tv, and that is not enough for me. Also, when he is home watching tv, he is usually also on the computer, so we do not even sit on the couch together? Any ideas on how to up the intimacy factor, just the romance part, not the sex?
