I, too, sleep on the couch most nights -- I've done it for the past year or so. My wife says that she tries to wake me, that I always mumble something like "OK," but then she goes to bed and I don't come in.
I'm sure that's all true.
But I also know that, if she told me something like "I miss having you with me," or "I don't like it when you don't sleep with me," or even a simple "I miss you when you do that" . . . I'd be there in a heartbeat. The truth is, she complains about my snoring, complains that I make the bed "too hot" and I'm "too close," etc., that eventually people go where they're invited.
I guess I'm saying DO continue to tell him how much it bothers you that he's not with you, and stay on him to find out what's really going on. A married couple sleeping apart every night is NOT the answer.
