Thanks Chrissy! he slept in our room when we first got married, until our first child. Then it pretty much stopped, and that was 9 years ago. His feelings came up as I said our relationship isn't working for me. At which point he simply said he doesn't know what he wants, loves me as a person, but I think feels he is not in love (I feel that way sometimes, too, but try to work at it). He also only sleeps about 5 hours a night and I sleep eight. I just feel the relatiosnhip is missing a chance for more intimacy as we do not share a bed and it really bothers me. It is also hard as I have told him several times how I feel, and he makes no effort. He also says he does not know how to comunicate and he doesn't think he wants to learn how. I also recently caught him on a "phone chat thing" talking dirty. He felt this was okay.
