Hello and welcome... My husband is a couch sleeper too...he sleeps on the couch 4-5 nights a week (alghough it's taken a lot to break this habit). He falls asleep on the couch cause he's watching tv and gets tired. He always thinks he going to get up and do something else or come to bed...but he ends up falling asleep there instead. I had to tell him many times how much this bothered me and how it made me feel like roommates, etc... for him to understand. He didn't understand why it bothered me. He would insist that it had nothing to do with me or our R. He finally has started to make an attempt to come to bed every night. He's down to maybe only 2 nights on the couch, which I can handle since TBQH, I like hogging the bed sometimes!
Anyway, my only advice is to talk to him. Tell him how much it hurts you that he's doing it. Explain that you don't care if it's a "family" thing, this is what you expect from your marriage. It doesn't sound fair to me that that he came come up and "get some" and then retreat back to "his room". There is something about sharing a bed that reinforces the feeling of being in a R.
just my .02
Good luck, Nicki
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
