I had written this in response to HP. But it is so negative and she seems to be progressing well with her "problem". This board is suposed to encourage marriage. I wonder if that is always the best, even when there is no abuse/neglect. Or is some of our lack of attentions really neglect. I do know some just cant show physical affection. How the hell they were able to prior to marriage, I dunno...
edited from HP's thread--
HP and others...
23.5 hrs a day you have the greatest spouses! Me too! That logic worked for 20 years. MrHP is trying more than some I know. It may end up being "goodenough" to hold things together.
I measured the list of good traits against the list of bad. The good traits won. If it was just a lusty longing, I really dont think it would have lasted even this long. Yet, not to be desired physically HURTS!
HP, does MrHP show the love thru the 5 LL's such that you can accept it, or, is it like me that no matter how much H douts over me, getting coffee and such, I'm reacting as this is a Jeeves type and not manly. The more I learn, the more I should have seperated years ago, at this age tho, maybe the Jeeves is better later in life. (of course, I believe life will not last as long in this strained environment)...
Weigh and ballance your plus and minus list well.
(I wish I had seen this board 20 years ago. I would have taken a different path, but thats me.
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
