Well, I'm the MARTIAN, LostGal, and I'm with you! That was an insensitive thing for him to have done.
I have a similar sitch in my HH . . . in order to go out in the sun, I need to put sunscreen on. Unlike my less melanin-challenged wife who is Italian, us glacial European types burn very easy, and I also have a sun allergy that I inherited from my father. (I can tan, but I have to be careful how I do it, and HAVE to use sunscreen).
Well, for years, my W has complained when I ask her "Will you please put some lotion on my back?" I do my own face, arms, neck, legs; all I ask is for her help in doing my shoulder blades that I cannot reach.
All I've ever gotten is "Ewww, that makes my hands all greasy," and "Now I have to wash my hands" after she's done, or just simply eye-rolls.
Well, I finally stopped asking. Intead, I stand before the bathroom mirror, like a bad circus contortionist, and eventually spread sunscreen over maybe 90% of my back. This is physically painful to try to do.
She's never asked why I suddenly don't need her help, and I honestly don't know what she thinks. I was HOPING she'd ask me, so I could say "You've made it clear that you hate to do that, so I do the best I can myself to reach most of it" . . . but she never asks.
