Just thought I would update what has been going on with me and my sitch. I have recieved alot of great advice here and for the most part everything is actually going well. No rollercoaster for over a week. Just really seems to be going pretty well. H is even helping out around the house which is so unusual. He told me the reason he never really helped out before was basically because I allowed him not to. I never said much about it and never complained. Now that he knows that I have been resentful about the fact he has actually started to do more. We have even started cooking dinner together. I have been telling him how much I appreciate the effort he is putting forth. We have both been going to the C separately. I think it has definately helped my H and his personal issues and MLC. He has been a totally different person. I am not sure why? But thats okay. As long as we are continuing to make forward progress. It is nice to here him talk about our future again. We have ML more in the past 10 days than we have for the last 6 months. It makes me hopeful that he is at least trying. I am not sure when we should try the MC again. Should I wait until he tells me that he is ready? I do not know if we should go while we are still seeing the C solo. As well as things seem to be going, I just do not want there to be any unresolved issues that rear their ugly heads in 6 months. One day at a time, one step at a time. Thank you all for the advice and support.
Its not about getting what you want, its about wanting what you already have.
