bf, I do see I guess some of what you say. I think his whole fantasy thing stemmed from the fact that he has some issues in that area right now and he knows that. As far as careers go, we essentially do very similar jobs just with different companies. I do make more money than he does, but I have been doing this for quite a bit longer than he has.
He is back at home. He actually only left for about a week back in August. About a week ago I told him that I felt the only reason he was here and going to MC was so he could walk away with a clear conscience and would be able to say he tried everything and it did not work. I did not feel he was truly working on our relationship nor his own issues. After telling him this, I have seen some hope with him. He apologized for behavior at C. Some of the nice things like spending some quality time and just genuine gestures from him. But like with everything It is still one day he is up the next its back down again. So far for the past 3 days everything seems okay. Of course I did not see him yesterday because of work. I know that I do tend to enable his behavior.
Its not about getting what you want, its about wanting what you already have.
