PATIENCE.

It feels "wrong" because it is different from your normal behavior, asking lots of questions, pressuring her, wondering what is going on, and you know how well that worked.

Treat it as the NEW relationship it is and be very, very patient, with her and yourself. And keep those negative thoughts away. Focus on the positives as you have. Just enjoy the time without worrying so much about the result or the future or the whatever.

Continue to be the strong, positive new you and the dividends will continue to pay out. There will be rough spots but I suspect you are better equipped to handle them. Just slow down and enjoy. And you can't guarantee you won't get hurt again, but you have become a stronger person.