I am going to keep this short for now, I am too exhauseted to get into depth with it so I am not going to quote a whole bunch of scriptures right now. If you want more maybe we can continue this later....
anyways. as the head of the house its your duty to do what is best for your family, weather that makes your wife "happy" or not. Yes you are correct in your comments about being a servant but -according to the bible since that is the line we are taking in this discussion- men are under the FATHER. Wives and children fall under the husband. If he makes his deciosn based on Love, he will do what is best for them and listen to their input. That doesnt mean serve them and their whims especially if they are detrimental to the family.
Right off hand the story of Job comes to mind, his wife erroneously told him to "curse god and die".
Did he listen to her? No.
Did he throw her out on her ear? no.
He made a comment that put her in her place, and then ignored her and did what was right.
This is an extreme example.
You have to be strong and earn and command respect. A woman CAN NOT trust a man who wont do what is best for himself. The attraction women have for men who are seemingly selfish is very telling. They trust the honesty of it and the attraction that it strikes mostly overwhelms any logic that would warn them of the dangers that often come with men who are naturally this way.
They do not have any feelings for men who put the woman's wants above their own needs and wants. You simply cannot kowtow to a woman, and ignore your own needs and have her respect you. You have power. You are obviously christian, so this power is God- Given to you as the man and you are expected to use it for the well being of your family. Use it.
