It's an interesting place to be isn't it. I was there briefly, not as long as HP, but I was there briefly after I got everything out of my system with my H. It's a shift in dynamics that happens. As soon as we (the HD partner) back off completely, that's when it's safe for the LD partner to come to us. Unfortunately for us to back off to that extent we have to pretty much become...disinterested, and that's not a good thing for the R.
However, I do still believe it's a temporary thing. It's out way of subconciously shutting down to protect ourselves...to recoup if you will.
