Believe me, I do hear what you are saying. What I mean to say when I say you use your conflict avoider nature as an excuse not to do something...is that simply by repeatedly saying you are this way...it makes it easier for you to stay that way....does that make sense?
So...what's your plan to break out of this pattern of avoidance? Do you have one? Have you been trying to form one for a long time? The reason I ask that is...for me, when I avoid conflict...boy does it seem to take me forever to actually come up with a plan...it's procrastination at it's best. I will over-think things, I will think of every possible scenario that could happen (or at least I used to do this) and what I realized one day in the middle of it all was that....I was thinking about solving the problems, but I wasn't really doing diddly squat about them.
I think perhaps using the phrase "excuse" wasn't exactly what I meant.
