Z-Bube... I would further add that you have a responsilibity to yourself and to the marriage to speak up and try to restore a healthier balance. When I look back to my LD days, I see I was wrong to get so caught up in work and then kids; in the name of good causes, I avoided my relationship problems. My H tends to prioritize work and house projects...productive ways to shut me out. Your W has been fueled by the hurricane tragedy to do a wonderful thing, but at this ppoint, it's not health. Have you said anything to her about missing the weekly ML? Are you afraid of appearing selfish? Do you think she will mysteriously resume the sex in the same way as before? IMO, it wasn't so mysterious...you were putting pressure on her, as I recall. You have to get back into the game even though she is doing good work and even if you seem selfish to her.
