Quote: I believe it is a valid and productive question. At some point in the progression of the HD partner, they sink lower and lower in an attempt to right the sexual wrongs of the marriage. The strange thing is...they do not even realize they're doing this. One day you wake up and think, Have I *really* been doing this? Why?
Yes, HP, that's how I've been looking at it. It’s like I told you several months ago about when we were ML and right in the middle of it, I started asking myself why I was doing it. It was clear that W wasn’t into it and would really rather not be doing it. So I had to ask myself why I was even bothering. We weren’t doing anything together, much less ML. I was using her body to MB. That’s when the question became meaningful to me. Why was I so intent on being sexual with someone who has shown me consistently for nearly thirty years that she doesn’t want to be sexual with me? What MrsNOP said is valid. There are plenty of potential reasons why she may not want to be sexual. But that does not invalidate the question of why I want to ML with someone who clearly doesn’t want that herself.
