Re Chrissy and Why do you want to ML with someone who doesn’t want to ML with you” question
Quote: I have often wondered why my H still wants me when I have been so apparent in my lack of desire for him.
For me it is because I have the desire and compulsion to want someone, in my mind. It builds a little until, one day cool emotions returned to me are better than feeling no emotions/love at all. Maybe some women and a few men can turn off their feelings of wanting someone longer than others. Turning off my feelings, drive me crazy (compulsive type) untill I find an outlet.
Having the attitude "just get over it" (dont want someone's love or sex) only is good for a while. Then I have to experience the real thing, even if it is a bad copy of what it should be.
If being M and having another woman were OK believe me I would not be here trying to fix the M as much as I have been. But I have been exposed to faithfulness talks, readings, and fairness beliefs for a long time so OW is still taboo for now.
