Be very wary of using her W's low-self esteem as an excuse not to say/do what you need to do for your M.
That my friend is an easy, easy trap to fall into. I found myself doing that with my H's low libido. Afterall...I didn't want to say something to embarrass, crush, anger him when it came to something so personal.....but by not saying anything "I" was avoiding the situation too. Then, when I did finally speak up, I tip-toed around him to not hurt his feelings. Looking back now it took forfreakingever for me to say what I really needed to say. Now, I can look back and see why he didn't take me seriously, looking at my behavior, I wouldn't have taken me seriously either.
Your W has issues, that's apparant. Whether or not she deals with them is up to her. However, she is married to you...not the other furry critters running around the house.
ZBube, I'm actually surprised you haven't stated some of the things to her that you've said on here. What are you afraid will happen if you were to tell her these things? What's stopping you?
