Quote: Why didn't you cart the puppy back up and take it back? I should have, but see the answer to number one.
Might sound mean but I am of the belief that you should have taken the puppy (dalmation?) back, especially if it was one that had a high likelyhood fo going to a good home.
This is coming from a guy that had to dump 2 dinners ( and some other things) BB complained about before things changed in that department. Some new problems poped up but I guess that is par for the course.
ZB I told BB a little about your situation because it is has some similar elements.
BB said (she was a mental health worker/nurse and gave patients their medications for 12 years) 1. Your W is not going to change unless she wants to or has a "reason" to change. 2. Ask her does she want the M to decline, improve or her opinion of where the M is going. 3. You need to tell her the M is not working for you and say you need her to talk about what shee sees as your future together. Let her vent. Take notes. Don't make any defensive statements. 4. Ask her if you are doing things that she feels or cause her to withdraw from the family and induce her to work with animals instead of people
Yes, I have heard if someone is alergic to animals, that person needs to go, not the animal so many times it is not funny.
What is your W's number one reason for not changing? What do you think your W's number one reason for changing is?
If you keep being a doormat, moving the line in the sand, maybe one day things will blow up and there won't be a ZB family. Do something now, it wont get any worse is my opinion.
