That's ok...I was just trying to refresh my memory, thanks. Ok...here's an approach I take with my H that usually works when he gets to talking about anything but us. "Hon, I know you find that stuff interesting and I do enjoy talking about that with you but there is so much about YOU I don't know....tell me something about yourself you've NEVER told me before. You know something from your past, something you've always wanted to do, something you never did but regret not trying...stuff like that." It usually works.
One VERY important thing to try to do though is to get her out of her normal environment. This is what works best with my H. If we are anywhere near a TV, he's paying attention to it not me, same with the computer. BUT, if we're taking a nice hot soak in the tub (which we do a bit more lately) or if just the radio is on to some soft music....or we're sitting on the porch enjoying a sunset....he's more likely to participate in a conversation like that.
I have to catch him away from his normal environment though...and sometimes that means. I say "Hon, lets go sit on the porch and enjoy the weather for a bit." or whatever...the key is, get her away from the computer, get her away from the phone, get her away from the dogs. You don't have to be obvious about it, just do something like take a drive...to enjoy the sunset.
