Quote: Remind me again...why you won't leave. I know you've posted it before, I've simply forgotten...kids? Religion? Simply won't?
Refresh my memory on this also...have you ever asked her for just some time to spend with her alone (non-animal related...you can ensure this, you don't have to make an issue of it.)?
To the first question: D – all the above. Do you need me to expand upon that? I can if you want me to.
To the second, yes and no. I do try to get time together on our own, but animals always seem to intrude. Since she’s so obsessed, the animals are her primary subject for discussion. When we’re alone, the convos always seem to be her complaining about the kids or something to do with the animals or her rescue group. We went to Jamaica for our 25th anniversary and she went with me to a week long conference in Minneapolis last year, so some of the times I’m speaking of are really vacations alone. But she still obsesses about the animals. After the trip to Minneapolis, D(then)16 complained that when her mother called, all she did was ask how the animals were and if they were eating, and if they missed her, etc. She never asked the kids how they were doing.
Chrissy,
OK, I know this is kind of corny and really is a cliché, but I think I get more from the kids than I give. I love all three of them just as much as if they were all my own. I’m already dreading D20 finishing college and going back home to Moldova. It’s bad enough letting her go home in the summer. D17 is a senior and will be heading off to pharmacy school next fall too. Does empty nest syndrome apply to fathers too?
Lil,
I think W does take me for granted. Right now, I’m in too foul a mood to say more about that. I just agree that W almost never takes my feelings or desires into account. I’ll leave it at that.
