Quote: ZB- is there a sweet lady hiding inside your W? Why did you fall in love with her? What did you see in her back then?
You know, those are really, really hard questions. I’ve always believed that there is a sweet lady hiding inside somewhere. I’ve said on these very pages that I also think there’s a sensuous woman in there too. But both are hiding extremely well. You never know about things that a shrink says; they may just be looking for a response or trying to get you to think about something. But having said that, I heard our C tell W that she was, “a cruel, vicious, vindictive bitch”. W agreed with that assessment. And I have to admit that once you cross her, it’s very hard to get back into W’s good graces.
Why did I fall in love with her? What did I see in her? Those are hard ones. We had a lot in common as far as values, religious beliefs, political views, etc. We were both music majors, so we obviously had a lot of common interests and experiences there. She was kind hearted and generous. I also saw stability, which was something lacking in my life. My FOO wasn’t abnormal other than being military. At the time I got married, I had lived in eight states and three foreign countries. I had spent over have my life outside of the U.S. I graduated from my 13th school and was working on me second university. W spent her whole life living in one house and finished high school with the same kids and in the same building where she started the first grade. Permanence and stability were very appealing to me.
Part of it too, was that I was young and foolish. Remember, we were both teenagers when we got married. We also rushed into M. We met in September when the semester started. I knew her roommate. We started dating in mid October, got engaged on November 19th, and got married on December 20th. Right now, I can’t imagine my life without her, but I do sometimes wonder if we would have gotten married if we had known each other longer and better. But that kind of thinking isn’t productive. This December will be 30 years, so I guess we’re both here for the long haul.
