I know what you mean about not having good role models for marriage. Honestly, I don't think it is an excuse. My marriage fell apart for a number of reasons, but I think a big reason was because H and I had bad role models for how to act in a marriage. We repeated what our parents did almost exactly. Now we both understand that there are different ways to treat your spouse, and we are greatful that we have realized this. We say that in our next marriage, whether with each other or not, we now understand what it takes to make a marriage work. Just another lesson learned the hard way I guess.
