I understand that you were only trying to help. I really do value everybodys opinions on what I should do. However, I also came here for support. I know what I did wrong and I made some drastic changes in my life b/c of it.
It is very hard to post as someone who was the initial WS. I dont expect anyone to feel bad for me. I guess the hardest part I am dealing with is that I know what it is like to be in the "fog" and can relate to what my exh did.
I know there is another child right now. I do not have anything against the innocent child. Right now the mother goes partying, doesnt take care of the child, and is immature. I know it sounds like what I did. My SIL said she got pregnant on purpose b/c I was trying to have a child at the time and she wanted to get out of her house. She comes from a very bad environment, parent does drugs with her friends, she drinks alot, and she doesnt have a job right now. I am not blaming her for what happened b/c my exh played a part also. I guess you are right in that I shouldnt interfere. I honestly believe that they are going nowhere. His family is urging him not to marry her and FIL said to take the baby and get the hell out of there and come back to me. (he can be a bit dramatic sometimes). I dunno, I guess I'm just looking for some different ways of looking at it.
