Do you two have insurance? If so, your insurance provider can help direct you to a Primary Physician. Heck, if nothing else get thee to the phonebook and start calling ENT Dr's to see if they take your insurance and are accepting new patients. This is not that difficult.
Look in the provider directory and go to the primary care section and pick one close to home. That's what I did. Not the best method for finding a good doctor, or one who shares my philosophy, but you gotta start somewhere. Another option is to ask your friends and family who they go to and call that person and see if they are taking new patients. With the exception of this last year, I don't go to the doctor much myself. But if my spouse kicked me outta bed, you can bet I'd be knocking on their door!
We do have health insurance, Greeneyedlass and honeypot. The provider is a major one, but revealing which one it is would be a security break.
I will ask my wife about how to go about this. She must know how, she found her present primary-care doctor after we moved here.
- "A"
"Everything that happens, happens. Everything that, in happening, causes something else to happen, causes something else to happen. Everything that, in happening, causes itself to happen again, happens again."
1 (29 ounce) can solid pack pumpkin puree 1 tablespoon pumpkin pie spice 1 (2 ounce) package dry pectin* 4 1/2 cups white sugar
DIRECTIONS: Mix solid pack pumpkin puree, pumpkin pie spice and dry pectin in a medium saucepan over high heat. Bring to a boil. Mix in sugar all at once. Stirring constantly, return to a full boil and boil 1 minute. Remove from heat. Transfer immediately to sterile containers. Seal and chill in the refrigerator until serving.
Arj, This is a really easy recipe. It might sound complicated if you do not ever cook, but I think you can manage it.
*Pectin can be found at the grocery store. In my area, it is usually stocked in the "charcoal, soda, canning supplies" aisle. It is a white powdery stuff that you just open the pkg and dump in.
Oh and for the maple PB, I bought maple extract (from the baking aisle, by the vanilla, etc) and put in a couple teaspoons of that.
Running your fingers up and down her back or front or whatever. Or her arms or head or face. You get the picture
I see two people who do not touch much, for any reason. So to even think about sex is skipping, like, 20 in-between touches
Add a few of these in-between touches
Make a kiss hello when you get home from work a ritual. A hug or something, squeeze her hand, run your thumb gently over her lips when you say good bye in the morning. Look in her eyes.
put your hand lightly on her arm, shoulder, leg. Give her knee a squeeze- occasionally- for no reason.
When snuggling in bed, try running your fingers thru her hair, or if spooning, just smell her neck, just behind her ear. Tell her how good she smells. With a deep quiet voice. Dont shout in her ear LOL.
dont rush, dont do them all at once, all day long.
Give her a strong kiss just when you break your encounter. Dont say 'thank you.' If the ladies differ with this last I'll defer to them. Relunctantly.
Oh by the way, about that article you posted. He may be "smart",( I read abunch of his stuff) but it is obvious to me why he is single and lonely. He sees something, doesnt quite get it and is convinced that it isnt him, despite the fact that doing the same thing over and over and over isnt working.
He has some 'facts right', but telling a woman that she should be attracted because I am a older, mature, wiser, man of means is not going to make her FEEL.
I think he is surrounded by female persons because HE is a male person. Personally I am surounded by women.
Keep it up, you got a winner, she wants to work with you.
We don't need to know who your provider is...but they can help direct you, and how would that breach a security anyway? You haven't given out names to us, we don't know who you are.....are you THAT afraid people are going to find out who you are? GEL
Quote: We don't need to know who your provider is...but they can help direct you, and how would that breach a security anyway? You haven't given out names to us, we don't know who you are.....are you THAT afraid people are going to find out who you are?
Well, as I've said in the past, the Argus eye of Google is everywhere. It's not you I'm worried about, Greeneyedlass, it's some random person searching for something else that might stumble across these pages and make the connection. Also, if ever my wife finds out I've been posting here, I want her to see that I've taken pains to keep anyone from possibly making the connection to either of us in RL or elsewhere online.
If this be paranoia, make the most of it. I have friends whose lives have been ruined because people Googling around made the connection between them and things they posted online.
blackfoot, I do try to touch her on a regular basis. Sometimes she pushes me away, even, because she's not feeling well, or she's overstimulated, or something like that. As for kissing at the end of the encounters...kissing is Stage II, and that won't happen 'till December at the earliest.
honeypot, thank you for the recipe. I have copied it. Incidentally: how many sterile containers should I need, and of what size, for the recipe as written? Should the containers be Mason jar-type containers with rubber lid seals, or should they be sealed with paraffin, as with canning?
- "A"
"Everything that happens, happens. Everything that, in happening, causes something else to happen, causes something else to happen. Everything that, in happening, causes itself to happen again, happens again."
Arj, Sorry for leaving out that critical piece of info! The recipe makes 2 quarts. Those are the extra large canning jars. Or 4 pints, the medium ones. Or 8 half pints, the little dudes.
Or you can use leftover jelly jars that have been cleaned--I don't know if you save these. It's probably easier to buy new canning jars from the grocery store. The jars will come with a lid and a metal ring that wraps around it. You can 'can' them, in a boiling water bath, if you want to keep them in the pantry, or just fill them and put the lids on and refrigerate them (after they've cooled).
We had another pre-Stage I encounter last night...I didn't have to prompt my wife; I just followed her into the bedroom, she checked for the cats and closed the door after us, and got up onto the bed. She actually said it helped her feel better, being in a nice, quiet place and feeling that someone really loved her. She also (after we got up) commented, "The cats are going to have to learn that, when we close the door like that, they're not being punished or anything." I suggested just removing pajama tops as an intermediate step; she made no comment.
So far, so good.
- "A"
"Everything that happens, happens. Everything that, in happening, causes something else to happen, causes something else to happen. Everything that, in happening, causes itself to happen again, happens again."
She also (after we got up) commented, "The cats are going to have to learn that, when we close the door like that, they're not being punished or anything." I suggested just removing pajama tops as an intermediate step; she made no comment.