Sorry haven't been around for a bit, went out of town. Blackfoot hit the nail on the head with what I was getting at about your statement.
To add to that though, you do need to treat your W as a WOMAN not as an HD/LD partner. There isn't a woman I know, HD/LD who does not find confidence attractive.
Just the mere fact that you did phrase your post the way you did (about almost screwing up) tells me that this way of thinking does eek over to real-life. I'm sure you had the chance to re-read your post before you actually posted it....things that come out in writing often transpose to real-life as well
I'm glad to read about some of your discussions though.
