Well, I don't want "women" in general, I want my wife...
Well you got your wife. Now the trick is making... getting her to want you.
I'm not concerned about being attractive to females other than my wife. What other females may think is irrelevant.
NO its not irrelvant. You are trying to deflect and avoid here. She is a female, they all have the same universal attraction buttons. So if you can attract, are attractive to others you will also be attractive to her. Did you read thru GS thread today, and the women said they want to feel as if the man is choosing them? VERY VERY important to understand this concept. Ok I am going to stop now before I feel I am beating my head on a wall.
You are going to have to change the way you think things should be and want things to work. Its not easy.